…yes, you read that title right. “Friend zoning” is a figment of the misogynistic man’s imagination in which he believes he is entitled to sex and/or a relationship status by the simple virtue of befriending a woman.
Let me be completely clear by what I mean… people tend to jump at my throat whenever I come up with radical arguments for whatever is bunching my panties up; so, hear me out for a sec.
There are men* [read footnote] who post their feelings on social media to attempt to gain the empathy from others wholly on the premise of being rejected by a female friend… but wait a second, since WHEN do we feel any kind of empathy for rejection?
What is it about rejection that makes acceptance so unattainable? I’ll tell you what it is, it is the over-exposure of sex and in part, us womyn are to blame. We allow you to feel entitled. We allow you to objectify us. I’m including myself because I’ve definitely succumbed to societal “norms” (i guess) in posting less than professional pictures, and raunchier than PG-13 posts. The issue is, people tend to overvalue their existence, thereby accepting rejection a serious challenge.
We feed our men their carnal desire of lust, we feed our men their need of validation — we (as people) have become so sensitive to simple affection, [such as a hug or holding hands] from our over exposure, that it makes it hard to accept the state of things in which we have them.
Allow me to illustrate: I’ve worked with children for about 8years. Whenever my class would go on field trips, I’d have my kids line up (in size place order), two lines (boys and girls), and hold hands (to avoid losing a rugrat). Now, I get that most children haven’t developed a sex drive, that’s a given, but my point is, kids have an understanding that “I can hold my friend’s hand without it ‘meaning anything'”.
Ok, where am I going with this? If children can understand that being friends with the opposite sex, does not necessarily mean that there’s a relationship (no matter how juvenile) immediately thereafter — what is it about “growing up” in to adults that changes that mentality? Over-exposure to sex.
The overexposure of sex is what causes a man to feel depressed or angered whenever a womyn friend rejects what she perceives as friendly gestures; what he perceives as courting.
So, you see, my lovely followers, understand this: THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS FRIEND-ZONING. If a relationship is the result of what was initially a friendship, great, that means both parties agreed that their friendship has at one point turned into courting. Fantastic. Contact Hollywood and sell your story. (I advised you, so give me a cut of the proceeds! – LOL)
But if the womyn makes the conscious decision to accept your friendship as a friendship and reject what you may think is courting, you have been REJECTED. The second you can accept you’ve been rejected, the faster you can find another mate. WTF is the problem?
Men understand: you are not owed sex, you are not owed a relationship. Her vagina and her heart are hers, not yours. If she hasn’t consented to your offer, ACCEPT YOUR REJECTION and move the fuck on.
[footnote] *men does not include 100% of the male human being species, clearly if you don’t identify with the “i’ve been friend zoned group” this blog does not apply to you.